Saturday, January 24, 2009

Change Your Thinking

Change your thinking

Have you ever considered that you may need to change your thinking? Most of us are comfortable with our beliefs and have lived with them so long that they "seem" right. We love when people confirm our belief system. However, when they say anything contrary to what we have always thought, we usually bristle inside. A lot of people bristled during Jesus' messages. Jesus would say things like,"you have heard it said...but I say..." He wanted us to change our thinking.
The Jewish nation was not ready to change. They wanted God to be all on the "outside." The old covenant deals with our outside. Things like sacrifices, circumcision, outwardly blessing with riches, even following the law. Check on your beliefs. Do you feel that God owes you something because you are faithful? Do you feel cheated when you get sick or suffer financial hardship and not the ungodly neighbor who is prospering.That is outside covenant living. Think for a minute about every Old Testament story. God's people ALWAYS won every battle. Abraham's family and descendants were wealthy. Job was a rich man and God returned all that he had lost. Does that always happen today? I don't think so.
He is concerned with what is going on inside when we are in a new covenant relationship. There are plenty of godly people who are poor. I DO NOT subscribe to the "prosperity principal." It is old covenant thinking. Jesus said some radical things about life. He said things like "deny yourself." Jesus was never mentioned as wealthy. Paul was ship-wrecked, beaten, had a thorn in the flesh, which God refused to remove. Why? God wants to improve our inside, not our outside. He commands us to rejoice in every trial because it does plastic surgery on our inside.
Being cut open is painful but it heals. Quit holding on to old ideas, like the Pharisees. God cares more about our holiness,than our happiness. He cares more about our posterity, than our prosperity. He cares more about our sanctification, than our level of comfort. He cares more about showing His strength in our weaknesses than us helping us hide our weaknesses.
"Do not be conformed to this world but be transformed by the renewing of your mind."

Monday, January 19, 2009

The Transforming God

You know I wouldn't leave you hanging on like that. There is a happy ending to the story and it certainly had nothing to do with my husband and I. I can still remember doing a Beth Moore Bible study on Believing God. One verse we studied was Hebrews 11:6 "And without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to him must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who earnestly seek him." It hit me like a ton of bricks. Without faith, I was not pleasing to God. I only had fear about the future. I started retraining my thoughts. When fear came over me, I forced myself to remember who God was, regardless of what I thought he was. I started praying about the unseen and not the seen, the eternal and not the temporary. In other words, I remembered WHO GOD IS and not who I was!
Can't tell if God was waiting on that or not. I just will tell you that if I had not seen it with my own eyes, I would not believe it. God gave my son a new everything! He transformed him. He remade him. He threw out the old and gave him the new. You could brag that you witnessed the parting of the Red Sea and I would not be as impressed as I was when I saw God take a person' s life and remake it totally.
My son knows he has been rescued. He loves the Lord more than anyone I know. That is all he talks about. He has a great job, owns his own home and was married to a precious girl in our living room a year ago. If you ask me to explain it, I would simply not be able to. However, God doesn't need explaining...he just needs to be trusted and for me to realize that He is always good. He does not care whether I am happy and have a perfect life. He cares that I am holy and reflect his glory. Thank you God for remaking me.
I felt the prompting to clarify some things about my prayer life. Interesting enough, I wrote the thoughts on prayer(yesterday's blog) when I was at an all time low in my life. I am not sure if I am emotionally ready to write about this but maybe someone needs to read it to help them through a hard time.
I guess you could say that I am a person who likes to control things. I like to be in control of the outcome. If I am in a group or organization and I sense that no one is taking charge, I will step up to the plate and take over. When I became a mom, I immediately quit my teaching job and stayed home to "do it right." I was positive that no one else could raise my children better than me and I guess I still feel that way.
As time went on, I returned to teaching thinking that I could check that off my checklist. I had a checklist of items that a mom had to do to insure that her children turned out okay. My husband and I get up early every morning and read the Bible together and pray together. We have taught Sunday School together for 30 years...singles, then 12th grade youth and now college. We try to really lived out our faith for our sons to see.
I was completely unprepared for the failure I felt as a parent when our younger son was caught using drugs and put in an alternative school for 6 weeks. My husband and I felt such shame because we both teach school and everyone in town knew about our "failure" as parents. It did not get any better. In fact, it became much worse. Our son became more rebellious as time went on. I can still remember the profound grief that Mark and I felt that we had failed as parents. We were losing the precious son that we had raised. Our endless prayers seemed to fail on deaf ears.Some nights we did not know where he was and we were filled with fear. God, where are you?
I found myself thinking so often, what had we done wrong? Where had we failed? What did I leave out? What item on the checklist went unchecked? I had no idea that it would become even worse. Our son fell into a deep depression from which there seemed to be no escape. He did not want to live. He finally attempted suicide and was in intensive care for three days before we knew that he would make it. Ironically, he attempted to take his life at the end of a Bible study that we held in our home for his 11th grade class at church. Again, I weakly cried out to God, asking Him when he would answer me. The next few years were filled with sadness, bewilderment, shame, insecurity. Why did Mark and I have no control over how our son would turn out? He had no hope. I resigned myself to the fact that he would not marry, much less hold a job or move out of our home.I know what you are thinking...you were too busy doing the right things and had no time for your kids or you were a control freak and your son rebelled. I read every book or article I could get my hands on to find out how to change. We went to counseling. I had a young mom ask me do I regret going back to work when I did and do I think that if she stayed home from work that her son would not turn out like my son. See, that is what we do. We all try to control the outcome. We try to come up with a reason why we see a child turning out like he does. We are certain that if we can come up with a logical explanation and try not to do that ourselves that we are "safe" and that it won't happen to our children.
I wrote the thoughts on prayer(yesterday's blog) during this difficult time. I had no answers...just faith in the one who had all the answers.

Sunday, January 18, 2009

Thoughts on Prayer

When God doesn’t make sense, when you feel like God is silent, when you don’t understand why nothing is changing about your situation,
Remember that it makes no difference if I understand God or not. That does not change the fact that He is God . My shabby belief system has no bearing on the fact that God is who He says He is. God’s power is not based on my belief in Him. His arm is never too short, His timing is never off. It simply does not matter whether I accept those facts; they are true anyway.
I can make things easier on myself by accepting them as truth in ANY given situation or I can make things difficult by rejecting those truths…my choice.
God’s power is not contingent on my being able to “figure out” what is God doing in all of these problems. He exists apart from me and my beliefs. How arrogant am I to think that whether I can see His hands move as a result of my prayer is the evidence of His answering my prayer. His answer to my prayer is based on His word that He is a God who “gives to those who ask.” He is a God who works ALL things for good to those who love Him.

Tuesday, January 6, 2009

Being a teacher, I constantly think about how to improve my teaching. One thing that I encourage my students to do is to be an active participant in the process of learning. This may sound like common sense. However, if you have ever visited in the typical 8th classroom, you will see that the teacher is the only one being active in the learning process! The students are wanting to absorb the material through osmosis, not active involvement.
I was reading the other day about neuroplasticity. It caught my attention because I am always trying to understand how the brain "files" and "retrieves files" at a later time. If I could get my students to properly "file" the new concept I am teaching, they could "retrieve" that file when they needed the information for a test or quiz.
Neuroplasticity, or brain plasticity, is the brain's ability to reorganize neural pathways based on new experiences. Simply put, every day we experience and learn new things. In order to incorporate this new information into our brains, the brain must reorganize the way it processes that information. Thus, as we learn things, the brain changes.
Now, how in the world does this apply to you? We can change our brain or retrain our brain. This is the goal of physical therapy or speech therapy. With enough practice, your brain could more easily get to the file that it needed so that it becomes second nature to perform in this manner.
I believe that spiritually we can take advantage of this ability of our brain to learn to do things differently. I think that if I practiced "praying without ceasing," it would soon be second nature for me to pray without ceasing. If I seriously practice "rejoicing always in the Lord," it would be my first reaction(instead of my delayed reaction) to rejoice when I am hit with a unexpected pain or trial. I would like to train myself to "be thankful in everything" instead of living a life without recognizing how blessed I am. I have not experienced speech therapy but I can imagine that it is hard work and requires a strong commitment to improve. Why should I think that it will be easy for me to change the way my brain reacts when confronted with the problems of everyday life?
As I made New Year's resolutions this year, I decided I would try to work hard at retraining my brain to do the things that God commanded me to do. I am not trying to do this in my own strength. However, I will have to be a part of the prayer. Sanctification is a life-long process. It does not happen overnight. I would like to be one step closer when 2009 comes to a close.

Sunday, November 23, 2008

Settling...A Dangerous Mistake

The Bible has a resounding theme throughout its pages. God has a promise land for us and we need to trust Him to reach it. Sad to say, very few of us want to trust him that much. From the beginning pages of Genesis to the last word of Revelation, we see countless examples of individuals who either took God at his word or decided the cost was too high. I have been thinking a lot about the ones of us who "settle" and thereby forfeit many of the promises that God has for us.
A story that comes to mind is in Numbers, chapter 13. Moses charged 12 men, one from each of the tribes of Israel, to scope out the land PROMISED to them. There was never a question about the chosen ones taking ownership. It was just a matter of waiting on God to reveal the hows and whens and wheres. When they returned, you remember the response from 10 of the men. "We can't attack those people! They are stronger than we are!" Only Joshua and Caleb trusted God to follow through with his promise to give them the land. You know the rest of the sad story...they wander 40 years until all the doubters and naysayers died off. They chose to forfeit their promise land. They decided that God could not be trusted and they were looking for an easier way.
Back up a few books and take a peek at Abraham. In Genesis, chapter 16, Abraham and Sarai decided to settle for an heir through Sarai's maidservant, Hagar. However, when Ishmael was born, God assured Abraham that this was not the way he intended. Later he reaffirmed the promise to give Abraham and Sarai their own son. "It is through Isaac that your offspring will be reckoned. Abraham took him at his word this time and Isaac was born. God never intended on settling. Too much was at stake. From this man came the descendants "as numerous as the stars and as countless as the sand."
We read in God's word that "he knew us in our mother's womb" and that "he knows the plans he has for us, plans to prosper us and not harm us." Sounds like we all have a promised land. That is not the question. The question will always be whether we want to settle for less or wait on God to deliver the real thing.
The problem with me is always that I want to believe in "the seen, rather than the unseen." The impossible, miraculous, unseen things are meant for someone else. I purposely decide to settle on something a little more in line with what I can figure out on my own. Even in my prayers, I tend to pray small. I pray for things that seem "reasonable." The times I have stepped out on a limb and prayed for all out ridiculous...I was blown away with how God showed himself to be powerful, mighty, faithful to his promises.
There is this significant thing about promises. When God promises something, he delivers. He never intends on us to settle. I love the 11th chapter in Hebrews! In verse 13 it states that "all these people were still living by faith when they died. They did not receive the things promised." Wait a minute...did I just say that they did not receive a promised thing? No way. The verse goes on to say that they saw them from a distance. There will be a total fulfilling of promises that will only happen when I am with the Lord. This is eternal thinking, not temporary thinking.
What areas of your life are you simply "settling?" If living your life is not requiring any faith at all, then you are DEFINITELY SETTLING! A question to ask yourself(I will ask myself, as well)...are you uncomfortable? Is your life requiring loads of prayer to get through the day? Don't settle. Stay the course. Wait on the Lord. He will blow your socks off..in this life and the life to come.

Saturday, October 25, 2008

When you haven't blogged in awhile, then every time you sit down to blog you begin to second guess yourself. You doubt if the blog you are about to write is worthy of anyone reading it. I decided to get past this thought and just write about stuff.
This morning I was working on my Beth Moore Bible study, Stepping Up. This is a study of fifteen books in the book of Psalms. My mind was wandering, as it often does when I have two minutes of free time. I was imagining what I would speak about if I were a famous Bible study teacher like Beth Moore. I decided that I would want all of the vast listeners(I said I was going to be a famous speaker!) to know all of my weakness right up front. I would need them to know of my imperfections, right off the bat.
We all tend to glamorize public speakers and think that they are super Christians. We imagine that they do not struggle as we do. We think that they do not have a weight problem or a jealousy problem or a gossip problem or whatever. The fact that Beth Moore asks us to lie face down and pray everyday that we are completing her Bible study makes me feel inferior to her as far as my prayer life. I do not lie face down ever when I pray and so I must not have the powerful prayer life that she does. I do not even have hours to study the Bible and pour over every principal that I would like to ponder over. I am busy every second of every day. I am way over committed and do not seem to have any margins in my life.
I say all this to make a point. God is so marvelous, oh so marvelous! He takes my weaknesses and weirdness and uses them to bring glory to His name. I really am going to name some of my many weaknesses.
1) I am so prideful and arrogant. I always think I am right...always.
2) I am jealous of all the people that seem to have free time.
3) I do not have compassion. Teaching 8th grade for so long seems to drive the compassion out. I want them to tell me the "short" version of their story about why they do not have their homework again.
4) I am judgemental. I would have been a Pharisee. I love rules!
5) I am black and white, no gray areas.
That being said, I wonder why I have any friends at all. If I do have a friend it is because of this marvelous God I am in love with. Listen to what He does.
When I grow closer to God and really abide with him daily, he reveals my horrible weaknesses. In John 16:15 Jesus said, "you justify yourself in the eyes of men, but God knows your hearts. What is highly valued among men is detestable in God's sight." I DO NOT want to be detested by God!
He gives me a new perspective on "free time." He takes away the jealousy and reveals to me that my life is all about giving away my time, my money, my energy. Try to die broke, all used up, no regrets, etc. I won't be at my death bed thinking that I wished I had been blessed with more free time, more money to remodel, more expensive trips. Instead I would be wishing that I would have invested more in eternal things that involved giving my money away, giving my time away, and giving my heart away.
As far as the judgemental side of me, he changes my perspective and constantly reveals my wretchedness, my need for a Saviour. He shows me that I am comparing myself to others, instead of to His holy nature! That slaps me in the face and gets me kicked off the pedestal really quick.
One more thing I realize about myself. In John, chapter 1, Philip ran to find his brother, Nathaniel. He tells him that he has found the Messiah! Nathaniel answers him with this arrogant statement, "Can anything good come from Nazareth?" Nathaniel answered the same way I would have. He thinks that Philip could not possibly be right. Thank goodness the story continues. Philip humbly answers,"Just come and see for yourself." Nathaniel comes face to face with the Saviour, the Messiah, the Son of God and gets knocked off his pedestal. God, keep knocking me down to my knees. I am going to miss so much of the goodness of life if I think I know it all.